Anger Etiquette ~ TID BITS & QUOTES
“Anger Etiquette skills are to be remembered for LIFE! Not for however long it takes to get your agent/social worker/case manager off your ass!” Mitchell Frank
It's OK to be angry - it's what we do with the anger that creates or resolves the conflict.
Anger - An emotion that creates and produces deafness. It will not get you what you want.
“You are not a bad person, you are a person with bad anger management tools.” Mitchell Frank
No one makes us angry, we CHOOSE to be angry.
Remember. When you find yourself arguing with a fool so is he.
“Attack the issues not the person.” "Separate the issues from the People" or "Be hard on the issues and soft on the people".
"Behind every argument is someone's ignorance." Justice Louis Brandeis
DEBATE/ARGUMENT - The difference between a debate and an argument is that a debate is seldom ended by a left hook.
The person who is losing control hears things differently than a person who is under control.
Unresolved conflicts have a way of influencing the rest of our day.
My control ends at my finger tip.
Positive things can result from conflicts
Conflict is normal, conflict can be constructive.
"You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar."
Conflict is an opportunity to learn something about someone else.
Conflict gives you an opportunity to see what you'll stand up for.
"Things do not change; we change." Henry David Thoreau
"He who seeks revenge should dig two graves."
Anger like fog, often distorts the way.
"You can change yourself to get change in other people." Jerry Richardson
"It's not always the act which makes one guilty, it is often the thought
"The bare recollection of anger kindles anger." Publilius Syrus,
Using anger to change others or as a driving force is a no-win situation.
The thoughts that affect our feelings of anger are the thoughts that direct our actions.
We ourselves can perceive the same event differently at different times for different reasons.
The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk." Jacqueline Schift
YOU DON'T GET RID OF YOUR TEMPER WHEN YOU LOSE IT!
If you are right, what's the use of arguing, and if you are wrong what's the use?
"No one can make you feel inferior unless you give them permission." Eleanor Roosevelt
People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing.
It takes Practice, Patience, and Persistence to build the experience to succeed.
" GSCMGPP = GREATER SELF CONTROL MEANS GREATER PERSONAL POWER" The more control I have over myself the greater power I will have over others, their reactions and responses directed at me.
Three parts to an argument; 1) Your way, 2) My way, 3) the Right way.
"Nothing on Earth consumes a man more quickly than the passion of resentment."
Nietzsche, Ecce Homo (1881)
"The blow of a whip raises a welt, but a blow of the tongue crushes bones." Apocrypha Ecclesiasticus
Change. The only person who likes change is a baby with a dirty diaper.
It takes two to fight and one to stop.
Depression turned inward creates anger.
The way to win friends is to lose arguments.
"Aggressiveness is a weapon for battle; assertiveness is a skill that when practiced effectively helps everyone involved." Charlotte MacDonald
Conflict resolution will make me healthier both physically and mentally.
"The past does not equal the future." Anthony Robbins